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And the Beat go on! August 20, 2008

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After four days in the hospital, Arden has been moved to Maryville Nursing Home for skilled nursing and rehabilitation.  Of course he hates it.  The first night he had the night nurse call us to come get him.!  We drove down and tried to reassure him.  The ongoing mantra is, “I need to get out of here.  Bring my $30.00 so we can go buy beer.”  I am so amazed at how obsessed he is about drinking when he hasn’t had a drink is almost 2 years.  It is always on his mind.  He even dreams about it, when he is not dreaming about amazing feats he accomplishes, like being the superintendent of Vancouver Schools!

Yesterday, his first full day at Maryville (yes, there is no “S” in the name even though people often mispronounce it Marysville.)  he was still in his hospital gown even though we had brought clothes for him.  Hopefully they will get him up and going today.  I will go by and see him when I take the boys,  Alex and Jacob Castillo, to the Nike Employee store to shop!

The boys arrived yesterday–great comic relief.  They are great, funny and smart.  Alex is taller than I am!  He is a good athlete and enjoys running Evan ragged in the backyard playing soccer.  Jacob is his own person so he jumps on the trampoline while Evan and Alex play soccer.  Yesterday We took them to the Oregon Zoo.  It was a perfect day for it because it was cool and lots of the animals were visible.  

Oh, and we watched Happy Gilmore last night!  Tonight it is Napoleon Dynamite!  Yes, great comic relief!

Love to all,  Sue

 

Arden to a Nursing Home August 19, 2008

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Today we moved G’Pa to Mayrville Nursing Home today.  Of course, he hates it and wants to come home to our house.  we have told him repeatedly that he can come back here when he can do all of the things the physical therapist wants him to do, like transfer from the bed to the wheelchair, feed himself, brush his teeth, feed himself, and develop his strength on the left side.  We are going to take a few days for him to adjust to the new environment.  Fortunately Jacob and Alec (Susan’s boys) will arrive tomorrow.  That will give us an excuse for not being around.  I will keep you posted

 

Suzeej

 

Arden Update August 16, 2008

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As you may know, Arden suffered a stroke Thursday (8/14/08) morning.  When I went into his room he was partially sitting up.  I asked what he was doing and he just muttered and then laid back down.  When I tried to change him, he wouldn’t respond to my requests and couldn’t look at me.  He just babbled.  I asked if he wanted to sleep some more and again he babbled so I left him a lone and kept checking on him.  Finally after about 15 minutes, I assessed the situation and determined that something was wrong and so I called 911.  They took him to Tuality Hospital in Hillsboro where he still is.  The MRI showed that he had suffered a stroke on the right side, affecting his left side.  While there is no paralysis, his left side is definitely weaker and requires much more thought for him to move his limbs.  He has been assessed by a speech therapist who determined that he needs to have pureed food (applesauce, mashed potatoes, squash) and needs to be fed.  The physical therapist determined that he needs PT to get him back to his prior functioning and therefore needs to be in a skilled nursing/rehabilitation facility.  Medicare will pay for the first 30 days but he can stay at the facility indefinitely.  We will have to see how it goes.  If he does not regain his ability to roll from side to side, feed himself, and sit up on his own, he will probably stay.  If he regains his abilities, we will have him come back here.  

I spent most of the day at the hospital yesterday and today.  He is much better than when he first got to the hospital but hasn’t gained much since yesterday (Thursday) evening.  Today he was pretty much the same–sleeping a lot, facial drooping on the left side, and having difficulty following simple requests.  

 

He will stay at the hospital until Monday at which time he will have to be moved into the skilled nursing facility.  evan and I went to one that has a great reputation in Beaverton.  They will have a bed available but they have to review his report to see if he is appropriate for their facility.  I will go look at two others tomorrow.  

I will blog tomorrow night.  They don’t have wi-fi at the hospital and I don’t have a laptop.

Suzeej

 

June 6th August 16, 2008

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Yesterday would have been Sally’s 67th birthday.  G’Pa and I talked about her for a while last night.  He was emotional about it and really didn’t want to talk about it.

I decided that the “E Weekend”/Baby Shower will be a tribute to out mothers and to motherhood.  I will be asking all seven of us, that is including Magalie, to write things about their mothers to share when we are all together.

 

G’Pa Funnies July 26, 2008

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One morning he said:  ”I need to have you and Evan to take me to shop for a car.  I want a late model buick or oldsmobile.”  When I asked about him having a driver’s license or insurance, he said, “No problem.  I can easily pass the test.”  I didn’t have the heart to tell him the reality!

 

One morning he said, “I need to sign all of the papers to make it legal!’  Don’t ask me what that means!

 

He told me a story about his parents owning property on the Santiam River and they sold it to the state for $1,000,000.00 but the state kept the money to maintain the property.

 

Yesterday I heard him yelling, “Get out of her, go away, scram.”  When I went in to the room, he said that our dogs had come in through the deck door and he scared them off.  (The dogs were locked into their area by the laundry room.)

 

He told Evan one night that we needed to have a serious talk.  The gist of it was that he wants us to move him into our office (next to the master bedroom) so he can have some privacy.  As we explored the subject, he revealed that he wanted his own little refrigerator so he could have ice and have his vodka on ice when he wanted it!  It is amazing that he hasn’t had a drink in over 1 1/2 years but he still longs for it!!!!

Love to all!

 

Letter to REd Cross and Ride Connection July 26, 2008

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July 24, 2008

Elaine Wells, Executive Director

Ride Connection, Inc.

3030 SW Moody Ave., Suite 230

Portland, OR 97201

 

Re:  Arden Wallace, 10/20/16

 

I called Ride Connection (Portland, Oregon) and scheduled a trip for my father Arden Wallace and me to go to the doctor on July 18, 2008.  The Red Cross volunteer came to the door to pick us up for our appointment.  She said she would get the van ready while I got Arden (age 91) in the wheelchair.  After several attempts, I didn’t think he transfer to the wheelchair so I went out and asked for her help.  She said that she had a bad back and couldn’t help.  Finally Dad was in the wheelchair and I took him out the front door and asked her to come help get him down the two front porch steps.  She repeated that she had a bad back so I asked that she just guide the chair as I took it down.  She stood there watching.  When I got him down, the chair skidded and it fell backwards and I fell down.  She didn’t try to catch the chair, she just jumped out of the way as the chair, Dad in it, fell backwards and his head hit the cement.  All she needed to do is reach out and stabilize the wheelchair to keep it from skidding but she jumped out of the way and backed away.  She didn’t come over to ask if we were OK, she just stood there.   I asked her to call 911 but she said for me to call and she would stay with Dad, again she just stood there looking at Dad as he lay on the cold concrete.   I got the phone and called 911 and then asked her to leave, or at least get her van out of the middle driveway so the paramedics could get in.  I got a pillow for his head and a quilt because he was cold.  She did nothing to help!   While we were waiting for the emergency response team I repeated several times that I wanted her to leave my property but she refused.   Later she told me that she called her supervisor who told her to stay and tell the paramedics what she saw.  When they arrived, she ran over with her clipboard and started talking to them.  I yelled at her to leave the paramedics alone, that their job was to tend to my father.  The paramedics talked to Dad, checked him over, got him back into the wheelchair and took him to his room.  They also bandaged his leg where he had a scrape and checked the abrasion on the back of his head.   When they left the house, they talked to the Red Cross volunteer.  I would not talk to her because I was upset and I just wanted her gone!

I called Ride Connection and talked to the supervisor named Dean.  I told him the story of which he was already aware.  He said that their drivers are not to do stairs.  I explained that I had been using them for almost a year and always had good luck with their drivers.  They always navigated the steps, helped with getting Dad out of bed when necessary and were always polite, helpful and courteous.  I mentioned that if my dad had been seriously hurt, there could be a lawsuit at which point he said that he couldn’t talk to me if we were going to sue.  He offered to send their policy handbook.  I told him that it wasn’t necessary because I would never use them again, but I repeated that NO ONE ever said their drivers didn’t do steps.  One of the paramedics said I can call Metro West Ambulance and they would take Dad to appointments.  They charge a fee—but at least he would be safe.

I assume that a Red Cross volunteer would be compassionate, helpful and caring.  If a volunteer is driving a Red Cross vehicle, which she was on July 18th, most people would assume that that person represents the Red Cross and could assist in any kind of emergency.  This is a direct quote from the Red Cross website: The American Red Cross is a humanitarian organization that helps millions of people each year prevent, prepare for, and cope with emergencies.  The Ride Connection website makes this statement about their collaboration with the Red Cross: The American Red Cross provides accessible transportation for senior and disabled riders. Our goal is to match your ride request with a volunteer driver who will ensure safe, on-time, door-to-door service. Red Cross Transportation Services depends on valued volunteers who dedicate their time as drivers, escorts and dispatchers.  Notice the word “safe,” and “door-to-door.”

This is the Ride Connection statement for future volunteers: “Ride Connection works closely with its community partners to provide alternative transportation for Seniors and people with disabilities.  Volunteers strengthen our network with their caring interaction with people.”

It has been 7 days since the fall.  Dad still experiences soreness in his shoulder and back.  I will be taking him to the doctor and have him checked out.  He talks about the experience and is angry about the lack of compassion or caring on the part of the volunteer and her unwillingness to assist in any manner.  All she wanted to do after the fall is try to “cover her bases” by telling “her story.”  Also, no one from either the Red Cross or Ride Connection has contacted us to see how my father is doing…Compassion?  I don’t think so.

Please respond to this letter.

 

Sincerely,

 

 

 

Sue D. Jaqua

PO Box 665

Hillsboro, OR 97123

 

 

Cc:           National Director of the American Red Cross

         Robert Ueland, Board of Directors President

                Thomas Bruner, Red Cross CEO, Oregon Trail Chapter

         Ride Connection Director

        

 

 

 

Adventure–but we are OK July 18, 2008

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July 18, 2008

 

 

 

Re:  Arden’s fall

 

The Red Cross lady came to the door to pick us up for our appointment with Dr. Klein.  She said she would get the van ready while I got him in the wheelchair.  After several attempts, I didn’t think he could get himself into the chair so I went out and asked for her help.  She said that she had a bad back and couldn’t help.  Finally he was in the wheelchair.  I took him out the front door and asked her to come help get him down the stairs.  She repeated that she had a bad back so I asked that she just guide the chair as I took it down.  She stood there watching.  When I got him down, the chair skidded and it fell backwards and I fell down.  She didn’t try to catch the chair, she just jumped out of the way as the chair, Dad in it, fell backwards.  The chair somewhat cushioned the fall, but his head landed on the cement.  She just stood there.  I asked her to call 911 but she said for me to call and she would stay with Dad.  I went inside and grabbed the phone and then asked her to leave, or at least get her van out of the driveway so the paramedics could get in.  I also went into the bedroom and got a pillow for his head and a quilt because he was cold.  She did nothing to help!  Later she told me that she called her supervisor who told her to stay and tell the paramedics what she saw.  When they arrived, she ran over with her clipboard and started talking to them.  I yelled at her to leave the paramedics alone, that their job was to tend to my father.  The paramedics talked to Dad, checked him over.  They got him back into the wheelchair and took him to his room.  They checked him again to make sure he didn’t have a concussion and they also bandaged his leg where he had a scrape.    When they left, they went out and talked to the Red Cross lady.  I would not talk to her, not even give her my name.  I just wanted her gone!

 

I called Ride Connection, the agency that schedules these rides and talked to the supervisor named Dean.  I told him the story.  He said that their drivers are not to do stairs.  I explained that I had been using them for almost a year and always had good luck with their drivers.  They always navigated the stairs, helped with getting Dad out of bed when necessary and were always polite, helpful and courteous.  I mentioned that if my dad had been seriously hurt, there could be a lawsuit at which point he said that he couldn’t talk to me if we were going to sue.

 

He offered to send their policy handbook.  I told him that it wasn’t necessary because I would never use them again.  One of the paramedics said I can call Metro West Ambulance and they would take Dad to appointments.  They charge a fee—but at least he would be safe.

 

We are OK.  Dad has a couple of scrapes and says he is a little sore.  His color is good, he has been joking.  He said he had a headache–it is no wonder!  I gave him a baby aspirin and he is resting.  I am finally relaxing waiting for Evan to call.  He had a big meeting this morning otherwise he would have been here to help.  

 

I am calling our handyman and having ramps built.  We should have done it a long time ago!

 

Visit to the Doctors May 9, 2008

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Today I took G’Pa to the doctor and then the eye doctor.  His regular doctor and his assistant tried to clean out G’Pa’s ears. They did the best they could but I have to put drops in his ears for 4 days prior to the next appointment.  His ears were so blocked that the doctor couldn’t see the eardrum.  He also put G’Pa on an acid reducer, thinking it might help with the cough.  We go back in 3 months–this is as G’Pa says, “What if I’m not here (as in back in Hawaii.)  I told him that I would cancel the appointment.

Then, we walked (I pushed him in the wheel chair) 3 blocks to the eye doctor.  It is as I suspected–he has cataracts.  The doctor gave us information and recommended that G’Pa have the surgery.  I will call as soon as I get back from Iceland–yes, we leave tomorrow!!!!  G’Pa seemed to think it would be a good idea.  The eye doctor said he could do a vision test on G’Pa because of the cataracts.  We think that insurance will pay for it–but probably not for the glasses that he might need following the surgery.

Alivia and Charlotte will trade off staying with G’Pa while we are gone.  If anyone needs to get in touch with us, call Evan’s cell: 503-701-9364.

 

 

Yo! April 29, 2008

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That is what G’Pa calls out when he wants or needs something.  A few minutes ago he “Yoed” me.  When I went in, he was sitting up–he wasn’t really sure why.  He has had breakfast and usually sleeps off and on until 1 or 2.  He also did this yesterday and was mad because I hadn’t brought his newspaper.  Then when I brought it to him, he said he had already seen that paper.

He has asked me to get new glasses for him.  He says he has #2 and he probably needs #4.  I have never purchased glasses at a drug store-hopefully I can find what he needs.

We had a good time in Phoenix.  We really enjoyed the warm weather.  Magalie is OK.  I went with her to the new OB on Thursday.  He deals with high risk pregnancies.  He said they will monitor the blood tumor and the fibroid (which is in her uterus.)  The baby will be competing for space with the other two obstacles.

We went out to dinner with Jeff and Magalie and met our friends from Portland.  Jeff got sick during the night and was sick all day Saturday.  Sunday he felt better but then relapsed on Sunday night.  They think he has food poisioning but he ate the same things the rest of us did except for his steak.  Hopefully he will be better today.

That is all for today.

 

Saturday, April 19, 2008 April 19, 2008

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This has been a relatively quiet week at the Jaqua/Wallace household.  G’Pa is doing fine except he resists doing his exercises (as prescribed by the new doctor) for me, so I have enlisted the help of the caregivers and he seems to be more cooperative.  He has been standing with a walker, transferring to the wheelchair and doing some leg lifts.  Tracy, the Wednesday caregiver, seems to get the most out of him.

We are going to Phoenix on Wednesday.  G’Pa doesn’t know it yet.  Alivia and Charlotte will be taking care of G’Pa and the dogs. We are anxious to see Jeff and Magalie.  She was in the hospital for over a week but is now home and is doing better.  She has Hemangioma of the liver,  which a non-cancerous tumor of the liver  thought to be a birth defect.  It is usually not discovered until medical pictures, like ultrasounds, are taken of the liver for some other reason.  Pregnancy and estrogen medications can cause these tumors to grow.  So that is what I know.

No news on the Arden vs Flo divorce.  The attorney was suppose to get the papers to me last week but when I called, his assistant said they had been working on several child custody situations and will get to us next week.  It should be simple and straight forward unless Jim Taylor decides to contest it–which would cost him and me a lot money.  

Love to all,  Sue